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e-PDA: Do or don’t?

Last week, I wrote about how I no longer make Sven prove he loves me by testing to see if he’d be willing to go to the ends of the earth to please me. But how about the Internet? A couple of years ago, at 11:42pm on my birthday, I asked:

“How come you haven’t posted on my Facebook wall yet?”

I was convinced that my “friends” would think it was incredibly odd and dickish of Sven not to profess his love to me in the form of a nauseatingly effusive birthday/Valentine’s Day/anniversary post. One year, I think I actually wrote one myself on Sven’s iPhone and posted it to my Facebook wall, with Sven’s permission. Just to make sure my friends all knew that Sven loved me as much as I knew he loved me, of course. Not to mention my family, who I really am convinced would smell blood on any hint of marital discord, real or not.

Sven hates all forms of PDA (public displays of affection)…especially electronic PDA. He’s just not the kind of guy that likes to hug, kiss, make out, or dry hump in public. He also doesn’t like to wax romantic on social media. I can live without the dry humping, but I have to admit I do get a little jealous when I see these very sweet posts from my friends’ boyfriends/husbands on Facebook (these are real):

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Yeah…Sven would NEVER post that kind of sappy shit. However, it’s not that he doesn’t want the world to know he loves me, he just prefers to be affectionate behind closed doors…and inside birthday cards, like this sweet, thoughtful, adorable one he gave me last week:

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It’s perfect. He’s perfect. What could I possibly have to complain about? Especially when I can just snap photos of his private displays of affection and post them on the Internet.

What’s your / your partner’s stance on PDA/e-PDA? Is it a do or a don’t?!

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Jen - 06/24/2014 - 7:37 pm

I think the ePDA is not as important as the “behind-closed-doors”DA. With anything on Facebook, people only tend to post what they want to post, and that gives them creative license to make their lives appear however they want. Sven’s way is my preferred method for sure. Because it’s real.

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