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What would you complain about to a sex therapist? 

The Huffington Post recently published an article called “10 Complaints Sex Therapists Hear All the Time,” which included the advice they give couples in their offices. Intrigued by the headline, I read it. After all, I love hearing about other people’s problems so I can feel better about my own. (Who doesn’t?) While Sven and […]

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First textual experience with Aziz Ansari

I wish this post was about my first textual experience with comedian Aziz Ansari, because I adore him and really want to be his friend. And if we were friends, we would text each other food porn and food-related emojis ALL THE TIME. Alas, this post is about Aziz’s book Modern Romance (yes, we’re on a first […]

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Don’t feel guilty for your imagination

Yesterday, I posted a video of a TED talk by Esther Perel, who discusses the secret to desire in a long-term relationship. If you haven’t already, check it out. Today, I’m sharing my biggest takeaway from her talk: don’t feel guilty for your imagination, because your imagination is the key to your erotic intelligence. When […]

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Why marriage spells disaster for eroticism

One of my readers sent me this video of a TED Talk by Esther Perel. She is the bestselling author of Mating in Captivity, which explores the paradox between lust and love. Admittedly, I didn’t know who she was before I saw this video, but according to her Wikipedia page, she trained in psychodynamic psychotherapy […]

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Sex O’Clock

Below is the transcript of a post I wrote almost two years ago, when Sven and I made a concerted effort to prioritize having sex, with a 2014 update at the finish…. Making Time for Sexy Time – November 29, 2011 Like everyone else, we’re always busy. Between work, errands, commitments, seeing friends, family, and […]

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UPDATE: Sven and I are not sexually compatible

A few weeks ago, I wrote about how Sven and I are not sexually compatible: he’s a morning person that hates late-night sex, and I’m a night owl that hates morning sex. Obviously, something’s gotta give here, so Sven and I have been trying to do a better job of improving our sex life, with […]

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Sven and I are not sexually compatible

Sven and I don’t have nearly as much sex as we want to be having. He’s probably going to hate that I’m writing about this, but I don’t care. This blog is supposed to be about how my marriage is not perfect despite the fact that we have a crazy amount of love and respect […]

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Where has all the romance gone?

Is it a bad sign that Sven and I have not even been married for five months, and I’m already blogging about where the romance has gone? 😉 Well, don’t get me wrong, Sven and I have plenty of love – I love him more every day! But romance is another thing entirely, and it […]

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If we can’t go on vacation…

This is where Sven and I wish we could be right now… Because we have this wedding thing happening in July, we don’t have the time or money to go on a vacation this winter. Luckily, it’s been an incredibly mild winter, but there is still no substitute for a warm beach vacation. You know […]

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How long should you wait to sleep with him (or her)?

This week’s question was inspired (and requested) by a couple of friends of mine who were curious about my thoughts on the topic. I have to say it’s been a while since I’ve been confronted with this question personally, but it’s a fun one to tackle because it’s a tricky one. First of all, I’m […]

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Making time for sexy time

Like everyone else, we’re always busy. Between work, errands, commitments, seeing friends, family, and just wanting to plain relax – sexy time unfortunately sometimes just falls by the wayside. I’m kind of ashamed to admit it, but sometimes we go an entire week without sex! I apologize if that seemed like bragging to anyone, but […]

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Stage 1: The Individuals

This post is the first in my series of posts of how Sven and I went from exotic fling to lifelong thing. [I apologize (and warn) in advance for the length of this post. I promise the rest of the stages of our relationship won’t be as detailed or lengthy. I just happen to believe […]

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