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    When I first started this blog in October 2011, I was at one of the lowest points in my life. After some soul-searching, I reconnected with one of my biggest childhood passions (writing) and combined it with my biggest current passion (Sven), and this blog was born.

    Looking back, the start of this blog was a huge turning point in my life. Now I am the happiest I have ever been! The posts below are mostly from my blog's humble beginnings, when I started documenting the challenges and strategies that led me on a path of self-discovery that ultimately changed my life!

Category Archives: Self-Discovery

Gifts from our daughter

Preface: I originally started writing this post a couple of weeks ago, when in processing the grief over the recent loss of our baby daughter, I turned to gratitude to find some light. I was having a good day…feeling so much love from my amazing friends, grateful for all the things I am lucky to […]

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Coming out of the dark

(Does anyone else think of the similarly-titled 1991 Gloria Estefan hit when seeing the title of this post?)  There are two things I did not expect about my first post since announcing a hiatus from writing. First, I didn’t think it would take me six months to come back. I thought I would be inspired to […]

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I can’t do it all: Part 2

I’ve been putting this post off for at least a month, finding reasons to procrastinate. I hate giving up and admitting I can’t do all the things I want to do simultaneously. I tried to give myself a break when I wrote this post the last time I was feeling overwhelmed, but this is an […]

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Don’t be that woman: Inspire other women

This week I cheated on my blog by guest posting for my dear friend Jennifer Gabel’s blog Hauling in Heels, which is dedicated to sharing the adventures of a woman navigating a male-dominated industry (in her case, cranes and construction). While I don’t typically discuss my career on this blog, it was a fun challenge […]

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How my dad taught me to be a good wife

Yesterday, my dad would have turned 76 years old. He passed away 10 years ago, and although I don’t talk about him often, I think about him every day. My dad raised me from when I was 7 years old, while my mom worked and was the primary breadwinner in the household. I’ve often attributed […]

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2016 Goals

Happy New Year! Another year, another set of new goals to fail following through on. I’m saying this because I just read my post from last year – my 2015 New Year’s Goals – and I failed to achieve most of them. In the interest of making you feel better for your failed goals, I’ll […]

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Five things I learned at #BlogHer15

I had the pleasure and honor of attending the BlogHer’15: Experts Among Us Conference, the world’s largest gathering of women content creators hosted right here in NYC. In two days, I experienced a wealth of inspiration and had more FUN than I ever expected! Here are five of the most exciting things I learned at […]

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Three mental barriers to having a baby

A few months ago, I wrote about not wanting to have kids, but also not necessarily not wanting them, either. I’m not opposed to having kids, but I’m also not gung-ho about having them. Sven thought I was overthinking the whole thing, but to me the whole point was that the decision to have kids […]

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An historic day…

The title of this post is an inside joke I share with my coworkers, none of who will ever read this because I don’t share my blog with anyone I work with. (Kiiiinda awkward for them to be able to read about my marriage.) However, this post is about my career, a topic I rarely […]

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What is a life you don’t need to escape from?

I don’t actually remember where I saw this sign. I think it was in an airport. Or in Sweden. Maybe at an airport in Sweden. Maybe it was somewhere else entirely, but really it doesn’t matter. It’s the message that stuck with me. I’m always thinking about/researching/planning/dreaming of ways to improve my lifestyle. I’m also a […]

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Girls don’t really want to hear the truth

I have a lot of girl friends, but I’ve never been a girls’ girl. This may possibly be because I was primarily raised by my father, who was one of the least sensitive men you’d ever meet. Whenever I would cry as a child, he would yell at me, not because he didn’t care, but […]

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Ten things I would tell my 20-year-old self

It’s officially the last week of my twenties. It’s crazy to think how much I’ve changed in the past decade. I’ve gone from being basically an impetuous teenager to a married adult. Did I say crazy? I meant scary. It’s funny to think how clueless yet confident I was back then, and now that I’ve […]

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Modern people do not make it easy for themselves

Sven sent me the link to this comic strip on wumo.com recently, with a note saying “The last guy is just like you.”               This comic strip illustrates such a great point about our society. Modern people do not make it easy for themselves. I know people that fall […]

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Empathy can be a bad thing in a relationship

Recently I’ve become fascinated in Myers-Briggs Personality Types. There are 16 personality types based on the different combinations of four personality preferences: Extraversion (E) or Intraversion (I) Sensing (S) or Intuition (N) Thinking (T) or Feeling (F) Perceiving (P) or Judging (J) I’m an ENTP. Sven is an INTJ. It’s not surprising at all that our personality […]

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How to live life to the fullest?

My big New Years’ resolution is, once and for all, to finally get serious about saving money. I’m almost 30, married, with my whole life ahead of me, but I barely have any money saved up. Sure, New York City is expensive, but I’ve made enough money these past eight years that I should have […]

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Happy 2013! New year, new resolutions!

Happy New Year! I missed out on posting last week because Sven and I snuck away to ring in the new year in the Bahamas! We had a great time, but now we’re back home, back to work, back to the middle of winter. It’s easy to feel depressed in this post-holiday hangover, but Sven […]

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Looking back on Year 1 of my blog…

A year ago this week, the idea for this blog was born. If you haven’t read about why I started this blog, you can read about it here, but this blog helped kick off a journey that led to the happiest time in my life. Last October, I was in the middle of a crisis […]

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10 more things I’m grateful for

I think it’s a good idea to end a long, stressful week with some gratitude. A few months ago, I wrote a post about ten things I’m grateful for. I was actually going through somewhat of a rough time in my life, and I was trying to focus on the positive instead of the negative. […]

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How healing my energy healed my marriage

When I first started writing this blog (almost a year ago!), my energy levels were at an all-time-low, and sinking further. In fact, I started writing this blog because I thought it might give me that bit of inspiration I needed to feel motivated and fulfilled again. Today, I am the happiest I’ve ever been […]

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Hippy dippy freaky deeky cosmic energy

Five years ago, I visited an energy healer. He came highly recommended by a very spiritual friend of mine who thought the healer could help me sort through some issues I was having at the time. (I am willing to try anything!) We had a one-hour session, in which he asked me what my “intent” […]

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Looking for love in all the wrong places?

I’ve been incredibly lucky in love, yet still somehow I manage to look for love in all the wrong places. How is this possible? Well, as proud as I am of how successful I’ve been in navigating my relationship with Sven (hence the inspiration for this very blog), I still have a ton of insecurity […]

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Me, me, me, me, me, me, me, and everybody else

So, I’ve recently completed my ten-week, self-imposed, self-improvement “program” by trying to follow a set of ten personal mantras I hoped would make me a better person. Self-indulgent? Yes. Worth it? Totally. This wasn’t the first time I made a list of mantras for myself…I was actually inspired by something I had written over ten […]

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I believe in energy!

Yesterday, I shared my big news and reflected upon my tenth and final personal “mantra.” In case you missed it, you can read about it here, but today I am reflecting upon the process it took me to become this happy, complete, and ready to start the next phase of my life. So what’s this about […]

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Final Monday Mantra…AND the big announcement!

Eleven weeks ago, I wrote a list of my own “Ten Personal Commandments” to help guide me through a difficult time in my life. I decided to call them “mantras” instead of “commandments” because I recognized their value if I was able to overcome the effort it took to apply them – if I reminded […]

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More is never enough!

For ten Mondays, I’m starting the week by focusing on one of each of my “ten personal mantras.” This week’s mantra is: #9. Identify what I want instead of simply wanting “more.” This is a Sven-inspired mantra that I’ve been enlightened by recently. I wrote about this back in January in a post called “Sven was […]

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The relaxation/laziness paradox

For ten Mondays, I’m starting the week by focusing on one of each of my “ten personal mantras.” I actually laughed out loud when I checked my list of “ten personal mantras” to see what I had in store for this week: There is a difference between relaxation and being lazy. It’s eerie to consider that […]

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Being me

For ten Mondays, I’m starting the week by focusing on one of each of my “ten personal mantras.” Today’s Monday Mantra is: #7. Be myself. Not what I think I should be, not what I think others think I should be, not even what I want to be even though I know it’s really not me. This is not the […]

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Failure!!!

So much for my anger management attempt this week. I kicked off the beginning of the week with the sixth of my ten personal mantras: Before getting angry, I will stop and try to put myself in the other person’s shoes.  When I found myself in a situation where that didn’t work, I included an addendum […]

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Patience and empathy are not my things…

For ten Mondays, I’m starting the week by focusing on one of each of my “ten personal mantras.” Today’s Monday Mantra is: Before getting angry, I will stop and try to put myself in the other person’s shoes. This one is really, really hard for me. I have a fiery temper, I’m impatient, and when […]

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Ten things I’m grateful for

For ten Mondays, I’m starting the week by focusing on one of each of my “ten personal mantras.” Today’s Monday Mantra is: Be grateful. Be genuine. Be genuinely grateful. This one is easy! And fun! Unlike last week’s mantra, stopping spirals of negative thought, which is incredibly difficult and unnatural for me, being genuinely grateful […]

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Stopping negative spirals of thought

For ten Mondays, I’m starting the week by focusing on one of each of my “ten personal mantras.” Today’s Monday Mantra is: Stop negative spirals of thought. Sometimes thinking positively just means not thinking negatively. This one is so hard! I’ve actually been working on this one for a little while. A few weeks ago, I asked […]

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Fun = happiness???

For ten Mondays, I’m starting the week by focusing on one of each of my “ten personal commandments.”  This week’s commandment is: Fun doesn’t necessarily equate with happiness.  I don’t want to start the week off by seeming to be such a killjoy! I love fun, and I love happiness! However, around the time I […]

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Monday Mantras

Last week, I wrote a list of my “ten personal mantras” to help guide my life’s focus. I want to keep going back to my ten mantras page whenever I feel down on myself, unconfident, or unhappy. The goal is to gradually change negative habits and thought processes in order to evolve into a happier, more […]

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My Ten Personal Mantras

One of the things that inspired me to start writing this blog was reading my old journals. In those journals, I would periodically write “commandments” to myself, which guided me on who I wanted to be at the time. (See right.) I think it’s important to have a few guiding principles that help me focus […]

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The Benefit of the Doubt

I’ve recently been trying to think more positively. The hardest part isn’t realizing that I need to think more positively, it’s figuring out how to actually train my brain out of old habits of negative thinking. The end result (hopefully) is a happier me. So, I picked up a book about Zen and the art […]

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How do you train yourself to “think happy”?

A week ago, I asked the loaded question What is happiness? My favorite answer so far: Happiness is not a state to arrive at, but a manner of travelling.  If that is true (which I believe it is), then my question this week is, how can I travel happier? I’ve been reading a book that provides […]

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Sven’s take on happiness

Looks like my post What is happiness? inspired Sven to share his thoughts on happiness! I have to say, Sven is one of those people that seems to have life all figured out. Of course he has his moments like the rest of us, but he is so damn resilient, it’s amazing. I really admire […]

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What is happiness?

What a loaded question that is. It’s not only relevant because it’s the question that inspired this very blog, but also because it’s a question I ask myself almost every day. And I’m not alone – there are thousands of books that attempt to answer this question, from philosophical dissertations to gimmicky self-help books, and […]

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Welcome to my blog!

If you’re reading my very first blog post, you probably know me, and you’re probably wondering why I decided to start a blog. I myself never thought I’d start one because I thought, who really cares about my life enough to actually want to read about it? Plus, my life is so boring, what could […]

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