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    Sven has no girl friends!

    Sven is a guy’s guy. An interesting thing about him is that he doesn’t have any female friends. He’s friends with some of my friends, obviously, but he doesn’t have any girl friend he hangs out with when I’m not around. And it’s not because I’m against it. It’s because girls generally…don’t really like him. […]

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    A simple little trick to boost any relationship

    I never like to tell people, “Hey, try this, it works!” especially when it comes to relationships. Everybody is different and every relationship has its own unique dynamic. However, I recently discovered a simple little “trick” that has made Sven and me much happier, so I’m sharing it with you all and feeling pretty confident […]

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    Do you dump on people?

    I dump on people more often than I’d like to admit, especially on Sven. Not literally (um, gross) but I dump, vent, release – whatever you want to call it – my emotional frustrations on him all the time. It’s actually a point of contention between us: he repeatedly tells me that he hates it […]

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    Do you want gold stars?

    Whenever Sven’s been what I call “a good Honey,” he loves it when I give him a “gold star.” Um, no we don’t have those packs of gold star stickers that elementary schoolteachers place on A papers, but it’s pretty much the same concept! It’s sort of a literal gold star – I’ll push my […]

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    First blog-induced fight!

    People always ask me how Sven feels about me publicly discussing our relationship. He is pretty cool about it. But it was bound to happen at some point: Sven being none too pleased with my airing of our dirty laundry on the internet. He wasn’t very happy when I hung him out to dry yesterday […]

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    Do you expect your partner to be a mindreader?

    This week’s question was inspired by my Valentine’s Day. It was the worst Valentine’s Day in the eight years Sven and I have been together. We had planned to do nothing, perhaps share a few more hugs and kisses than usual. Apparently, “nothing” had different meanings for Sven and me. Here’s how it went down: 5:30pm: […]

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    Five things I’d change about Sven

    I love Sven with all my heart, but if I were to tell you he was perfect, I’d be full of shit. Yes, he may be The Perfect One to his parents, but the reality is that Sven is flawed. Is it kind of evil of me to point out a bunch of things I […]

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    Nagging: Part 2 – A marriage killer?

    A while ago, I posted a question – Why am I such a nag? The truth is, I actually don’t nag that much (Sven says I’m a 5 on a nag scale from 1-10), but I am usually the nagger in the relationship. Not really a big deal, I thought, until I came across this article […]

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    Only Child vs. Middle Child

    One of the biggest adjustments that Sven and I have had to make is dealing with each others’ family dynamics. Birth order is an interesting thing, because it determines our place within that dynamic, and also shapes how we interact socially. As an only child in a small family, I’m used to the dynamic being […]

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    Stage 7: The Fish Out of Water

    This post is the seventh in my series of posts on how Sven and I went from exotic fling to lifelong thing.  I’ve been putting off writing this one because this stage of our relationship was definitely our crappiest. I’d like to tell myself that this stage is somewhat inevitable in all (formerly) long-distance relationships, when […]

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    How we went from the bottom to the top

    Yesterday, I wrote about getting to the bottom of every fight. It’s a “rule” I firmly believe in and helps guide me through our conflicts, big and small. But it’s never easy, and to recap my example from yesterday, there was a period of time when Sven was becoming uncharacteristically snarky, criticizing my new outfits […]

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    Getting to the bottom of every fight

    I’m not a big believer in rules – I’m more the fly-by-the-seat-of-my-pants type. But one of the few self-imposed rules I try to adhere to in my relationship is: Get to the bottom of it. I want to get to the heart of every issue Sven and I encounter so that we never have the […]

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    “Dude, you better run…that bitch is crazy!”

    Those were the kind words of advice given to Sven after a teensy altercation I had at a restaurant a few years ago. It was during my “pushing limits” phase, or shall I say, when I was a crazy ass bitch. In my last post, I talked about how I didn’t hold back the real […]

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    Stage 5: Pushing Limits

    This post is the fifth in my series of posts on how Sven and I went from exotic fling to lifelong thing.  You know how early on in a relationship, people are usually on their best behavior? They spend the first few months trying to impress their partner, and then they settle in and the true […]

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    Our three biggest conflicts and how we resolve them

    Sven and I are almost as different as two people can be. In most cases, our differences are complementary, but they can also be a source of conflict. Here are our top three “conflicts” – our biggest personality differences – and how we resolve them: Conflict #1: He’s calm, I’m temperamental. Call me moody, spontaneous, […]

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