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2016 Goals

Screen-Shot-2015-04-12-at-6.00.32-AM1Happy New Year!

Another year, another set of new goals to fail following through on. I’m saying this because I just read my post from last year – my 2015 New Year’s Goals – and I failed to achieve most of them. In the interest of making you feel better for your failed goals, I’ll summarize mine for you. You can read my full list here. I call them goals instead of resolutions because goals imply a target and a plan, whereas resolutions simply imply intent. And even though I generally failed at reaching my 2015 goals, I did make some progress, and goals can be measured in terms of progress, intentions cannot.

2015 Failed Goal #1: Work out in the mornings. I tried, and I failed. Though, I did learn something. Last year, I wanted to crush my limiting belief that I’m not a morning person. By trying to work out in the mornings, I realized the problem isn’t my inability to get up at 4:45am to work out at 5am (I have to be at work before 7.) The problem is my inability to go to bed early because I naturally have so much energy at night, regardless of how little sleep I’ve gotten the night before. I did take two weeks off and worked out every morning around 9:30am, so I know can do it when I’m rested, I just need to figure out how to incorporate it into my every day life. So, in 2016, I need to plan better on how to get to bed early enough to squeeze in a few 5am workouts a month.

2015 Failed Goal #2: Reinvent my blog and start my own business. I’m not making excuses, but when I look back on 2015, I was more focused on my day job than I ever have been in my career. I was promoted to run a team last January, which was fun and exciting, but also took up 99% of my mental energy. So my desire to start my own business took a back seat. I did make some blogging strides this year by having five articles featured on BlogHer.com and one on Huffington Post! However, I didn’t really “reinvent” it the way I had imagined. Nonetheless, I am still proud of it and inspired to do even more in 2016, including planting the seeds for my own business.

2015 (Partially) Failed Goal #3: Stop being selfish and mentally prepare myself for wanting to have kids. I did try to address my reluctance to have kids head-on this year, and I learned a few things: I thought that I’d be more open to having kids after getting promoted at work, but I wasn’t, so I had to face that. Sven and I agreed we would be happy if we did not have kids, and that made me feel a lot better. Finally, we very recently stopped actively trying to prevent having kids (pulling the goalie, if you will), and even though I am still trying to actively prevent Sven from coming in on target (I may have even yelled out “Wrap it up!” in the heat of the moment/state of panic a few times) (TMI? sorry), I think I’m starting to become okay with the outside possibility that it could happen. That’s progress, right?

Rather than come up with a new set of goals to fail on this year, I’m going to try to follow through on turning my 2015 failures into 2016 successes. And instead of reading my New Year’s goals a year after I made them, I’m going to come back to this quarterly (just like I do with my quarterly sales figures at work!) and follow up on my progress.

What failures (and successes) did you have in 2015? What are your 2016 goals? Please share!

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Leigh - 01/05/2016 - 9:08 pm

Going to bed earlier is also on my list- Tom and I have to get up early, but I keep us up a little too late most of the time! My second goal is to clean for 1/2 hour each day when I’m home alone- turn on the radio, set the timer on my phone, and just pick a room and go!

Alicia - 01/06/2016 - 2:47 pm

#3!!!! muhahahahaha!!!! you crack me up!! i love your TMI! <3 <3 <3 my goals are more yoga/stop prioritizing work when it's time to work out. and eat the same amount of chocolate. or less, as long as it's not more! 😉

xoxo

Jen - 01/11/2016 - 10:21 pm

Ooh Leigh, I like your cleaning one! Especially with our transition from apartment to house, it is easy to feel overwhelmed when the cleaning tasks pile up! Melanie, be warned that when we stopped trying not to have kids, I found myself staring at a positive pregnancy test a couple of weeks later. One of the best scary moments of my life. My goal this year is to gain weight because I’m such a rebel who likes to go against the grain. Or because I’m pregnant, and it’s inevitable. As is giving birth. Low hanging fruit, but I have a newborn phase and a get-back-into-my-bikini phase in store for me this year, so I’ll take the easy wins where I can!

Melanie - 01/12/2016 - 5:07 pm

Thanks for sharing ladies!! I like the cleaning one, too. It’s fun to purge, especially when living in a small NYC apartment. I also like to light candles and play music while cleaning…the smell and the sound is energizing. I’m starting to realize one of the down sides of “stopping trying not to have kids” is “having less sex/giving more blow jobs” – the latter not reeealllyy being that much of a down side for Sven. Baby steps…

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